A first time podcasting experience and what it taught me about love
Hello again, friends! It’s time for another personal story.
If you follow any of my social media accounts, you probably already know that last week I was a guest on Tripp Kramer’s podcast, “How to Talk to Girls” (if you missed it, definitely go back and check it out here).
So, for today’s personal story, I’ll be sharing more about that – my first podcast experience. Don’t worry – I’ll get back to the mistakes shortly (I know those are always more entertaining to read), but this time, it’s a much more positive take on the world of dating.
As I mentioned before, I had a chance to be a guest on a podcast. And not just any podcast, a podcast with Tripp Kramer. If you don’t know him, he’s a dating coach for men. He runs a blog and a YouTube channel, called Tripp Advice where he gives men advice on how to approach women with confidence.
Along with that, he has a podcast called “How to Talk to Girls.”
That’s where I come in.
Through sheer chance, he saw my Twitter account, read a few of my blog posts, and invited me onto his show. He actually sent me a DM and asked if I’d be willing to go on later that day (apparently the guest who was scheduled backed out at the last minute).
Seriously. How lucky is that?! 😎
That particular day, I was off work (I have a day job too), so I basically jumped at the chance.
Now, I knew of his blog and follow him on Twitter, but since his audience is mostly men, I wasn’t familiar with his podcast. So, I did a quick Google search – you know, as you do when invited onto someone’s podcast 🤷♀️ – and saw how massively popular his podcast is.
As nerve-wracking as this was, I was so excited about getting a chance to talk to another dating expert on a podcast.
So, after my Google-search, I sent a quick text to a certain someone to share the news…
You must’ve seen this coming. I mean, it wouldn’t really be a personal story without a guy, now would it? 😏
For the sake of this story, we’ll call him John.
John is my current love-interest. We’ve been dating for a few months now and, unlike most of the people in my life, he actually knows about this blog. As soon as I learned I’d be on a podcast with Tripp Kramer, I sent him a text (with probably at least three exclamation marks).
He was at work, but immediately responded with enthusiasm – he was probably just as excited as I was, actually.
I’m not going to recap the entire podcast, but you can go back you can go back and listen to it here. The episode is called “Why ‘No Contact’ Works So Well” (if you can’t already tell what the podcast was about, I’m not sure that I can help you…actually, I’m not sure that anyone can help you.)
I was really excited about it, though – I’ve written about how important the ‘No Contact’ rule is after a breakup (hint: it’s very important) and I felt pretty confident about my “expertise” in this area.
For one thing, I’ve read a lot about the psychological impact that a breakup has on people – it produces the same chemicals in your brain as drug withdrawal.
For another, I have a ton of first-hand experience that showcases just how vital it really is.
Most of that experience (okay, fine, all of that experience) is based on NOT doing ‘No Contact’ and how, in retrospect, I really wish I would have (ask any girl who has called an ex ten times in a row or shown up to their house in tears if they regret it… trust me, they do 😳 – that’s a story for another day, though).
Anyway, during the podcast episode, I talk about all of this with Tripp. Serious props to him, too, because I’d never done a podcast before and was incredibly nervous and unsure of what to expect, but he really knew how to put me at ease.
The episode came out about a week later and, again, the first person I texted was John. This time, though, it was because I wanted him to listen to it right away. I was at work, but even if I wasn’t, I was WAY too nervous to listen to it (does anyone else feel like they HATE their voice when they hear it recorded? No, just me?)
About 45 minutes later, I get a text from John telling me how amazing I was on the podcast and how I gave such an interesting perspective on the whole topic (I actually did go back and listen to the episode, by the way, and I can assure you, he was definitely embellishing my talent).
But no matter. It felt good to be embellished. That’s the takeaway here.
Find someone who props you up instead of tearing you down. Your partner should be your biggest cheerleader. And vice versa. (Secondary lesson: if invited to do a podcast, go for it!)
As always, thanks for reading! Be sure to let me know your thoughts in the comments below.